COVERSTORY 10.26
Taylor Moore, Brooke Moore, Brenda Epperson-Moore
Seasons of Flourishing Growth
Photography by Fadil Berisha
Story by Diana Addison Lyle
Autumn is about seasonal transitions in life. This autumn cover story is about the unique journeys of three vitally strong women: Taylor Moore, Brooke Moore and Brenda Epperson-Moore who have transformed and embraced their new horizons with vigor and fortitude. The two generations give us valuable insight into generational perspectives and the rewards of grasping life’s opportunities. It’s also about the importance of being rooted in an unshakeable value system that supersedes any superficial distractions.
Taylor Moore
You recently spent the summer in Paris and St. Tropez. Tell us about that experience.
TAYLOR:
I had the wonderful opportunity to spend part of the summer in Paris celebrating my best friend’s college graduation. Afterward, we traveled to St. Tropez, which was every bit as beautiful as I had imagined.
We spent our days relaxing on the beach, swimming in the crystal-clear Mediterranean water, and exploring the charming town. In the evenings, we enjoyed incredible food and great conversations. My favorite memory was renting a boat for the day and spending hours out on the water, swimming, enjoying a glass of wine, and making memories I’ll never forget.
The trip reminded me how important it is to slow down, experience new places, and spend quality time with the people you love. It was the perfect balance of celebration, adventure, and gratitude.
You’ve achieved enormous success in your modeling career since its launch three years ago. You moved to New York City. Tell us about life in the Big Apple and your accomplishments around the world.
TAYLOR:
Moving to New York City to pursue modeling was one of the biggest leaps of faith I’ve ever taken. New York is incredibly fast-paced and competitive, and it quickly teaches you resilience. You learn that rejection is part of the industry, but so is perseverance.
Over the past three years, I’ve been fortunate to work with incredible clients and creative teams on campaigns that have taken me around the world. One of the greatest highlights of my career has been collaborating with renowned fashion photographer Fadil Berisha. Working with someone of his caliber challenged me creatively and gave me an even greater appreciation for the artistry behind fashion photography.
Modeling has also given me opportunities I never imagined growing up. I’ve traveled internationally for work and shot in beautiful places like Greece, Columbia and Bermuda where I experienced a completely different culture while doing what I love. Every destination, every campaign, and every team I’ve worked with has taught me something new and helped me grow as both a model and a person.
Beyond the campaigns themselves, I’m most grateful for the people I’ve met and the experiences I’ve gained. Modeling has introduced me to talented photographers, designers, stylists, and creatives from all over the world, and each opportunity has pushed me to become more adaptable, confident, and professional.
Looking back, I’m incredibly proud and grateful for how far I’ve come in just three years, but I also see it as just the beginning. There are still so many places I’d love to visit, brands I’d love to work with, and goals I’m excited to pursue.
Modeling has made you grow in ways you never imagined, correct?
TAYLOR:
Yes. It has taught me far more than how to pose in front of a camera. It has taught me independence, resilience, and how to advocate for myself. Entering the industry at a young age meant learning very quickly how to navigate unfamiliar cities, travel on my own, manage my schedule, and carry myself professionally in every situation.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that not everyone will have your best interests at heart, which is why it’s so important to surround yourself with people you trust and to be your own advocate. I’ve learned to ask questions, set boundaries, and make decisions that align with my values and long-term goals.
Modeling has also made me incredibly self-disciplined. Whether I’m dealing with delayed flights, long travel days, or personal challenges, I still have a responsibility to arrive on set prepared, professional, and ready to give my best. In this industry, your appearance is part of your work, so taking care of yourself physically and mentally is essential.
These experiences have made me much more confident, resourceful, and “street savvy.” I’ve learned how to adapt quickly, stay calm under pressure, and handle situations with professionalism—skills that extend far beyond modeling and will benefit me for the rest of my life.
There’s a misconception that modeling is a very glamorous life. It’s not. Describe the real picture.
TAYLOR:
Despite the outward image, modeling is far from all glitz and glamour. People often forget that models are human too. While our work may appear effortless or picture-perfect, we’re just as imperfect as everyone else. We experience hardships, mental health challenges, exhaustion, and the pressure of constantly performing at our best.
There have been countless times I’ve arrived on set with little to no sleep because of circumstances beyond my control, like delayed flights, long travel days, or being under the weather. Regardless of how I’m feeling, the job requires professionalism. I have to show up with a positive attitude, be prepared, look my best, and give 100% to the team and client. It takes resilience, adaptability, and a great deal of self-discipline. And yes—sometimes a lot of coffee helps too.
When comparing Europe to the USA, you speak of there being a much healthier beauty standard in the USA.
TAYLOR:
One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed between the European and U.S. modeling markets is the overall approach to wellness. In my experience, the U.S. places a strong emphasis on living a healthy, balanced lifestyle. There’s a greater focus on fueling your body with nutritious food, staying active, getting enough rest, and taking care of your mental well-being—not just to look your best, but to feel your best too.
I’ve found that this mindset encourages models to view health as a long-term investment rather than chasing unrealistic standards. It’s about being strong, confident, and taking care of yourself from the inside out. I believe that’s such a positive message, especially for younger generations who are looking for healthy role models.
Every market has its own unique style and expectations, and I’ve learned something valuable from each of them. But I really appreciate the growing emphasis on wellness and authenticity, because I believe confidence is at its best when it comes from a healthy body, mind, and being comfortable in your own skin.
The U.S. modeling industry places a strong emphasis on living a healthy, balanced lifestyle. The focus is on fueling your body with nutritious food, staying active, getting enough rest, and taking care of your mental well-being. I’ve found that this mindset encourages models to view health as a long-term investment rather than chasing unrealistic standards. That’s such a positive message, especially for younger generations who are looking for healthy role models
You love coming home to southern California to your family and your horses. Tell us about Moore Creek Farm.
TAYLOR:
No matter where work or travel takes me, I always look forward to coming home to my family and my horses. They’ve always been my happy place.
One of the most important things I’ve learned over the years is just how intuitive horses are. Unlike dogs, horses are prey animals, which makes them incredibly aware of the emotions and energy of the people around them. They can sense when you’re anxious, frustrated, sad, or happy, and they often mirror those emotions in the way they respond to you. Working with horses has taught me the importance of patience, consistency, and staying calm. They have a way of keeping you grounded because they respond best when you’re fully present and genuine.
There are always plenty of responsibilities on our family farm, and I enjoy doing whatever I can to help. Whether it’s researching more sustainable practices, managing natural pest control, or taking on projects around the barn, I’m always looking for ways to improve how we care for the land.
A few years ago, I started keeping honeybees to help improve pollination and fruit production while also providing fresh honey for our family. Beekeeping has taught me just how essential pollinators are to our food system. Unfortunately, bee populations have declined significantly due to habitat loss and the widespread use of pesticides, which is why I’m passionate about supporting pollinator-friendly practices whenever possible.
We’ve also introduced beneficial insects as a natural alternative to chemical pesticides. Green lacewings help control whiteflies that can damage our grapevines during the summer, and we use fly predators to reduce fly populations by targeting them in the larval stage. These natural solutions have been incredibly effective while allowing us to minimize chemical use and create a healthier environment for our crops, animals, and the beneficial insects that keep our ecosystem thriving.
I’ve learned that pest control isn’t always about making huge changes—it’s often about making thoughtful, intentional choices that work with nature instead of against it.
You are a Gen Z. Everything is at your disposal on a digital screen. What’s your analysis of its benefits?
TAYLOR:
As a member of Gen Z, I’ve grown up with technology and social media, so it’s naturally a big part of my life. Having so much information at our fingertips makes life more efficient in countless ways. Whether I’m researching something for our family farm, staying connected with friends and family while traveling for work, learning a new skill, or promoting my modeling career, technology allows me to accomplish things much faster than ever before.
I also love that social media gives people a platform to express themselves, share ideas, and build meaningful connections. At the same time, I think it’s important to use it mindfully. Social media often shows a carefully curated version of people’s lives, and it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. I’ve learned to remind myself that photos can be edited, videos can be filtered, and what we see online isn’t always reality.
When used with intention, technology is an incredible tool that makes life easier, more connected, and more efficient. The key is remembering to use it to enhance your life—not define it.
You mention that growing up, you were very shy. Nobody would ever know that now. What helped you to develop your social skills and the confidence you have today?
TAYLOR:
Growing up, I was definitely very shy and reserved. Speaking up or putting myself out there didn’t come naturally to me, and there were times when that was challenging. As I got older, though, both school and modeling pushed me outside of my comfort zone.
Modeling, especially, helped me grow. Every job meant meeting new people, working with different teams, and learning how to communicate with complete strangers. Over time, those experiences taught me how to start conversations, build relationships, and become more comfortable in social settings.
As for confidence, I’ve learned that it isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s built through experience, resilience, and getting outside of your comfort zone. For me, true confidence comes from knowing who I am, what I stand for, and not feeling the need to compare myself to anyone else. The more comfortable I’ve become with being authentically myself, the more confident I’ve become.
What is your 5-year and 10-year plan going forward both professional and personally?
TAYLOR:
In the next five years, I plan to continue modeling full-time while maintaining a healthy work-life balance. Professionally, I hope to book more major campaigns and walk high-fashion runway shows throughout Europe. At the same time, I want to continue growing outside of modeling by developing my horsemanship skills and gaining a deeper understanding of horse training. One of my long-term goals is to buy young horses, train them, and eventually build a business around selling well-trained horses.
Looking ahead ten years, I hope to have a family of my own and raise my children on a farm. I want them to experience the same upbringing I was fortunate to have—learning the responsibility of caring for animals, respecting the land, and understanding where their food comes from. I believe those experiences build character, gratitude, and a strong work ethic.
I also hope to continue working with horses for the rest of my life. Whether that’s training them, competing, or simply enjoying them as part of my everyday life, horses will always be a big part of who I am. For me, success isn’t just about career accomplishments—it’s about building a meaningful life centered around family, purpose, and doing what I love.
What’s your favorite food indulgence?
TAYLOR:
Chocolate, without a doubt! If it has chocolate in it, there’s a good chance I’ll love it. It’s my favorite indulgence and my go-to treat whenever I’m craving something sweet.
A dream campaign you’d love to do in 2027?
TAYLOR:
Ralph Lauren. I’ve always admired the timeless, authentic aesthetic of the brand, especially its iconic campaigns featuring horses and the outdoors. That lifestyle feels incredibly genuine to who I am. Ralph Lauren has inspired not only my wardrobe but also many of the photoshoots I’ve done with my own horses. Being able to represent a brand that reflects so much of my own life and values would truly be a dream come true.
Brooke Moore
You graduated from Oaks Christian School two years ago.
BROOKE:
Yes, and I am incredibly grateful for that foundation. Ever since sixth grade, I built relationships and learned lessons that continue to shape who I am today. One of my most memorable experiences was our senior retreat. The school surprised us by asking our loved ones and teachers to write letters filled with encouragement, advice, and reflections on who they believed we were becoming. Reading those letters was incredibly moving, especially hearing from teachers who had noticed qualities in me that I hadn’t yet recognized in myself. It was a moment that made me feel deeply supported and reminded me how much the Oaks Christian community genuinely invests in its students. I also had teachers who took the time to encourage me personally and believed in me during important seasons of growth. Their kindness and mentorship left a lasting impression and taught me the value of making others feel seen. Beyond the classroom, Oaks Christian gave me the opportunity to explore so many different interests through the equestrian team, ceramics, dance, and cheerleading. Having the freedom to try new things helped me grow creatively, build confidence, and discover the passions that continue to shape my life today.
You are now in your third year at Grand Canyon University in Arizona.
BROOKE:
I am currently studying Business Marketing at Grand Canyon University, and I will be entering my third year this fall. One of the things I enjoy most about marketing is that it’s constantly evolving. I’m especially interested in branding and social media marketing, and I hope to build a career where I can combine creativity with business strategy. My college experience has challenged me in the best ways, both academically and personally. I transferred during my second year, so stepping into a new campus where so many friendships had already been formed was intimidating. There were moments when I questioned whether I was making the right decision, but I reminded myself that growth comes from being willing to step outside of your comfort zone. Looking back, it was one of the best decisions I’ve made. I’ve met incredible people, including my roommate, who became an instant friend and someone I know will be in my life for years to come. During my first week, I also decided I wanted to stay busy and become part of the community, so I walked into a local store and asked if they were hiring. I was offered a job that same day, and it has been one of the highlights of my college experience. Not only has it given me purpose outside the classroom, but it’s built my confidence and it’s reminded me that sometimes the best opportunities come from simply taking the initiative to do something unfamiliar. Between school, work, and the friendships I’ve built, college has taught me to be more independent and adaptable.
You come from a very stable and loving home environment. How has that influenced you as you pursue a new life chapter away from home base?
BROOKE:
Being away from home has made me appreciate it even more. I don’t think you fully realize how special those everyday moments with your family are until you don’t get to experience them every day. Distance has given me a deeper appreciation for the love and support I grew up with. Home is where I wake up to the peacefulness of the ranch. I slow down, reset and reconnect with the people and animals I love, and I’m also reminded of the values that shaped me into the person I am today. I am very fortunate to have such a loving and supportive family. My parents created an environment where I always felt safe, supported, and encouraged and that has given me the confidence to step outside my comfort zone and pursue opportunities. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve also realized how much my family has shaped the standards I have for my own life. Watching my parents’ love, respect, and commitment to one another has shown me what healthy relationships look like. It has influenced the kind of friendships I value, the way I approach dating, and the type of life I hope to build one day. It has taught me not to settle for relationships that don’t reflect those same values. My family has shown me by their example how to treat others with respect.
You’ve been modeling since you were a baby.
BROOKE:
Modeling has been part of my life for as long as I can remember, so in many ways I’ve grown up alongside it. While it has given me incredible opportunities, the biggest lessons haven’t been about being in front of a camera—they’ve been about learning to be confident in who I am. Over the years, I’ve had to adapt to new environments, work with all kinds of people, and step into situations that required professionalism from a young age. It taught me how to communicate, take direction, and present myself with confidence, even when I felt nervous. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve also learned the importance of separating my self-worth from my appearance. I recently signed up with It Model Management with a focus on me doing print and commercial modeling. I’m excited to continue pursuing this while also building a career in business. Both allow me to be creative, connect with people, and continue growing in new ways.
You have a very special understanding of horses.
BROOKE:
Horses have taught me some of the most valuable lessons in my life. They’re incredibly intuitive animals, and they’ve shown me the importance of patience, trust, consistency, and being fully present. They can sense your emotions, so if you’re anxious or distracted, they’ll reflect that right back to you. Working with them has taught me to slow down, stay calm, and approach challenges with confidence instead of fear.
Of course, the competitive side of riding can be stressful because there are so many things that are outside of your control. You can prepare as much as possible, but you’re working with another living being, and every horse and every ride is different. I’ve learned that while I always want to perform at my best, success isn’t just measured by the ribbon—it’s measured by knowing I gave everything I had. One experience that really stands out to me was before a recent horse show. I sat quietly for a long time visualizing my ride and telling myself I wasn’t leaving without giving it my absolute best. I ended up earning the blue ribbon, and while that was an incredible feeling, what meant the most was knowing I had trusted the work I had put in beforehand. Riding has taught me that the goals worth achieving require patience, discipline, and perseverance. Those lessons have carried over into every other area of my life, from school to work, to my personal goals, and I know they’ll continue to guide me wherever life takes me.
You live in a sophisticated world where people may have agendas when they approach you. How do you navigate the social aspect of your life where you sometimes have to deduce whether the attention someone is giving you is genuine, superficial or self-serving?
BROOKE:
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that not everyone’s intentions are the same, and that’s simply part of life. Rather than trying to judge people too quickly, I’ve learned to let their actions speak louder than their words. Genuine people are consistent. They celebrate your successes, support you during difficult moments, and care about who you are beyond what you can offer them. I’ve also learned to trust my instincts. If something doesn’t feel authentic, I don’t ignore that feeling anymore. At the same time, I never want to become cynical or assume the worst about people. I believe most people are good, and I try to approach every new relationship with kindness while also maintaining healthy boundaries. I think growing up in such a loving and grounded family has given me a clear picture of what genuine relationships look like. Whether it’s friendships or dating, I value honesty, respect, and people who appreciate me for my character rather than appearances or circumstances. Those are the relationships that last, and they’re the ones I choose to invest in.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of being 20 years old?
BROOKE:
One of the greatest advantages is that life feels full of possibility. I’m at a stage where I’m discovering who I am, exploring different opportunities, and building the foundation for the future I want. There’s something exciting about knowing that so many experiences, relationships, and adventures are still ahead of me. I don’t feel like I have to have every answer right now, and that’s a gift.
At the same time, being 20 can feel uncertain. You’re making decisions that have the potential to shape your future, and sometimes it’s hard to know whether you’re choosing the right path. You’re learning that not everything goes according to plan, and that can be intimidating. What I’ve learned is that it’s okay not to have everything figured out. Every experience, whether it’s a success or a setback, teaches you something valuable. I think your twenties are meant to be a time of growth, and I’m trying to embrace that instead of feeling pressured to have my whole life planned out.
Like most young people, life has brought you some storms. In 8th grade you endured a serious concussion, you encountered peer bullying, and you candidly speak about having your first panic attack while at school. What did you learn about yourself during those darker times?
BROOKE:
Those experiences were some of the hardest seasons of my life, but they shaped me in ways I’m grateful for today. At the time, I felt overwhelmed and confused. I was trying to understand things that felt much bigger than I was, and there were moments when I questioned myself and allowed other people’s opinions to carry more weight than they should have. Over time, I realized that my worth isn’t determined by what others think of me. Healing began when I stopped measuring myself against other people’s expectations and started embracing who I truly was. It wasn’t something that happened overnight, but choosing to focus on my health, my faith, my family, and the people who genuinely loved me – helped me find confidence again.
Those experiences also taught me that sensitivity isn’t a weakness—it’s one of my greatest strengths. Because I know what it feels like to struggle, I make a conscious effort to notice when someone else might be hurting. I want people to feel seen, included, and valued because I know how much kindness can change someone’s day. Empathy has become one of the qualities I value most in myself. If I could encourage anyone going through a difficult season, it would be this: don’t let your current circumstances convince you that they define your future. The hardest chapters of your life don’t have to become your whole story. Keep asking for help, keep believing in yourself, and don’t lose hope.
What are some of the activities (beyond horse-riding) that bring you great happiness?
BROOKE:
Dancing! I’ve done it since I was in fourth grade. There’s something so freeing about music and being able to express yourself through movement. I can completely clear my mind and just be present in the moment. I love staying active, whether it’s working out, going to yoga, hiking, or simply taking a walk outside. Exercise has become so much more than just staying physically healthy; it’s one of the best ways I take care of my mental health. I always leave a workout feeling better than when I started. For me, happiness comes from the simple things—moving my body, spending time outdoors, being with the people and animals I love. Those are the things that help me feel balanced and grounded.
You recently did a Safari trip to Africa. Tell us about that experience.
BROOKE:
My trip to Africa was one of the most unforgettable experiences of my life. Seeing wildlife in its natural habitat gave me such a deep appreciation for the beauty and complexity of God’s creation. It reminded me how incredible our world is and how much there is to learn by stepping outside of our everyday routines. The trip also gave me a new perspective on gratitude. Traveling allows you to see different cultures, ways of life, and perspectives, and I always come home with a greater appreciation for the things I often take for granted.
One moment that will always stay with me happened as we looked up into the sky and saw what looked like angels forming in the clouds. Whether someone views it as a coincidence or something more, it was an incredibly meaningful and peaceful moment for me. It reminded me to slow down, be present, and appreciate the beauty and wonder that surrounds us.
More than anything, Africa left me feeling inspired. It reinforced my love for adventure, deepened my appreciation for nature, and it reminded me that some of life’s greatest lessons come from experiencing places and people that are different from our own.
What ideas do you have for ensuring that the Gen Zs avoid some of the pitfalls that are inherent in places like social media platforms?
BROOKE:
I don’t think social media is inherently a bad thing. It has the power to educate, inspire, connect people, and even create incredible career opportunities. At the same time, I think it’s important for us to remember that what we see online is a highlight reel, not someone’s entire life. One of the biggest pitfalls for my generation is comparison. It’s so easy to compare your appearance, success, or life to someone else’s carefully curated content, and that can make you lose sight of your own journey. I’ve learned that the healthiest thing you can do is focus on becoming the best version of yourself instead of trying to keep up with everyone else. I also think it’s important to spend more time living your life than documenting it. Follower fixation is unhealthy. Social media is a tool – not the definition of our self-worth. In-person human connections are much more important.
What are some of the other places you’ve visited that impacted you?
BROOKE:
Italy. My mom took me and my sister there for my 16th birthday. I loved how every street seemed to tell a story through its history, architecture, and culture. There was such an appreciation for slowing down, enjoying a meal with the people you love, and taking in the beauty around you. Every place I’ve visited has taught me something, and I always come home with a great appreciation of the place I call home.
How do you like celebrating your birthday?
BROOKE:
I love celebrating birthdays! I joke that I’m a little extra when it comes to them because I think life is meant to be celebrated. I love getting all my favorite people together, dressing up, trying somewhere fun or going on an adventure, and making memories we’ll laugh about for years. It’s special having everyone I love in one place and taking a moment to appreciate another year of life. As I’ve gotten older, birthdays have become less about the party itself and more about feeling grateful for the people who have supported me along the way.
It’s important to spend more time living your life than documenting it. Follower fixation is unhealthy. Social media is a tool – not the definition of our self-worth. In-person human connections are much more important
Brenda Epperson-Moore
Since we last interviewed you in 2017, much has happened in your life. You moved from Los Angeles to the Westlake Village area and onto a horse ranch. Your three girls have grown up, and your eldest daughter, Sophia, recently gave birth to a beautiful son named Bennett. Give us a picture of all that is new and exciting.
BRENDA:
Moving to a farm allowed all of us to reconnect with nature and my specific roots, especially given my background of working on a farm in Oregon. This return to a more organic way of living cultivated a sense of peace and fulfillment, enriching all of our lives daily. The connection as a family with our horses and 6 acres really was a therapeutic family bonding time during the girls’ younger years that I will never forget. Taking care of our horses fostered a deeper understanding of responsibility and empathy in the girls and a work ethic that will live on in each of our lives. With the space and tranquility that a farm offers, I really believe I was able to parent with more patience and mindfulness. Embracing a more organic lifestyle has been in my heart from birth; there are no pesticides in our garden or our vineyard.
We rescued more animals, including two kittens which was Brooke’s dream. Now, she takes care of them, and they thrive at the barn. My daughter, Taylor, even has bees helping the dwindling population. The barn has brought me back to nature’s harmony and reminded me how important harmony is, on the farm and in life! I wrote a book called Rise Up! empowering the reader with practical steps to overcome the bondages that hold us back. It was an accomplishment on my list that I can now check off.
My oldest daughter, Sophia, married an incredible man, Case Southfield, and moved to Idaho, where she had a thriving career as an on-air journalist for CBS, then decided to start a family, and my precious grandson Bennett was born on September 03, 2025, not far from my own birthday. One of the greatest gifts you can have, next to your own children being born, is watching your daughter become a mother; Sophia is an incredible mom. Case is an incredible Dad.
What style of parenting are you a proponent of and what has been your main goal in that responsibility?
BRENDA:
I have never been a “by the book” parent. Every child is incredibly special and powered by their own unique individuality. Raising young women in today’s world is my greatest joy, but it can also bring the deepest heartaches as we navigate life’s inevitable challenges, emotions, highs, and lows together. To me, true success means weathering these storms and coming out stronger on the other side.
I believe it is imperative to raise daughters who are both strong and deeply compassionate—outspoken, yet highly sensitive to people and the world around them. When we notice an imbalance in our children’s lives, it’s our job as parents not to break their spirit, but to gently guide and redirect them toward a healthier path.
I don’t agree with the modern notion that parents should be their children’s friends and that everything will magically work itself out. Our immediate responsibility is to help our children navigate right and wrong, parent them, hold them accountable for their choices, and teach them kindness and respect. Above all, parents must provide direction. While I didn’t always achieve this perfectly, my children knew I fought to maintain a judgment-free environment. If your kids can come and talk to you, that is already a success. Even when my kids’ confessions made me want to jump out of my skin, they knew that I had their backs and loved them unconditionally. The friendship matures later, arriving naturally when your adult children witness you successfully living out the principles you spent years instilling in them. It is built on a foundation of shared faith—moments where, whether they liked it or not, I held their hands and chose to pray, pray, pray.
I’ve observed lazy parents who check out and don’t dig in and do the work with and for their children, and later, they wonder why their kids cannot engage in society. Do the work, be present, or don’t have kids. Get a dog instead if that’s your max capacity. Don’t make excuses; fix it; change it and learn from it.
My husband and I committed to raising world-changers. We are fostering young women who will take on the world powerfully. Growing up surrounded by our horse farm with its chickens, tortoise, and rescue dogs and cats has given them a profound reverence for all life. In a society that has become so self-absorbed and desensitized to the people around us, our animals have taught my girls deep empathy for both human beings and creatures alike.
Raising Taylor and Brooke in the equestrian world presented its own unique challenges: my husband’s and my objective was to keep the sisters on their own paths while making their sisterhoods strong and healthy. We encouraged Brooke to pursue hunters and Taylor jumpers, and it became their own natural progression even without our intentions. That way we avoided any direct competition while fostering their individuality.
Rooted in the truth of our identity in Christ, we have also helped the girls navigate the pressures of their teenage years. By focusing their energy on the equine world, they intentionally stepped back from pervasive “girl-on-girl” bullying and typical teenage pitfalls. Our strict “no drugs in the home” rule continues to provide a safe, grounded environment.
How have you transitioned from having your girls graduate from high school to them leaving home, pursuing careers and going off to college?
BRENDA:
It takes prayer—lots of it! While it is essential to pour your heart into your children, you must also be careful not to lose yourself along the way. A year before my youngest, Brooke, left home, I foresaw the impending loneliness. Knowing that the silence of an empty house and closed bedroom doors would be heavy, I partnered with a friend to launch a production supply company which I have recently sold and am onto the next big adventure. I also dove back into my love for playing tennis and gardening.
I have learned that I’m stronger and more resilient than I realized. Watching my three girls thrive is a reflection of all the hard work and prayers in real time.
My husband has also embraced this new chapter. He is diving into new real estate investments and developments, while his latest passion—or obsession—for pickleball keeps him active and winning tournaments. I truly believe that at any age, we must challenge ourselves and reject the status quo. God is a big God. I never want to limit Him, and I am ready for every blessing He has to offer. I always say, when you reach your limit, set a new one!
You mentioned how important it is to have challenges in life and to accept that change is part of life.
BRENDA:
I thrive on challenge (no matter what age you are) and the importance of having challenges is essential because they stretch us and keep us vibrant, alive, engaged and free from fear of change.
What are the prerequisites to maintaining a very stable, safe home environment when raising children to become confident young adults?
BRENDA:
The best thing you can do for your kids and family is to love their father, and the best thing a father can do for his kids is to love their mother. It brings peace and stability to your home and a sense of security as a family unit that is so rare and precious in today’s day and age.
You’ve often said that you are strategic and careful about who you let into yours and your family’s life. Educate us on the importance of that.
BRENDA:
I don’t do dumb, and I don’t do crazy. I run from chaos and strife; I really have no use for it in my life. When friends have commented, “You’re so lucky not to have this woman or that woman hurt you or talk about you,” I often comment, “ I’m not lucky, I’m strategic.” I value my close friendships, and I have a clear understanding that time is a precious and valuable commodity that we never get back; therefore, I’m strategic with who I allow to speak into my life, and whom I give my time to. I hang around women that are givers. A strong woman has no time or place for jealousy. A strong woman has a mission, a path, a calling on her life. She takes it seriously and doesn’t allow others to hurt her with words or allow others with limiting mindsets to bring her down or slow her down. This is a mindset I have tried to instill in my daughters. I am a leader. I have raised three women who are leaders. A true leader doesn’t try to create more followers. A true leader creates leaders. I want to continue to be the type of friend that doesn’t talk behind my friends’ backs but prays for my friends behind their backs.
You belong to the Gen X generation. Your eldest daughter, Sophia, is a Millennial. Taylor and Brooke are Gen Zs. What have you observed as a mother raising these two different generations?
BRENDA:
I grew up during a time of shifting societal values, economic uncertainty, and the rise of personal computers. I experienced events like the end of the Cold War, the rise of MTV, and the advent of the internet. Our generation witnessed the internet technology explosion. My Generation values independence, self-reliance, family and work-life balance. We tend to be skeptical of authority and institutions. I’m certainly not a person that follows things blindly. I question everything and everyone. The greatest thing my mom did for me is take me to church where my relationship with God began. The 80s was a very big faith movement. It’s where my faith grew and flourished and I have instilled that strength in each of my daughters.
Millennials came of age amid the rise of the internet, social media, globalization. They faced impactful events like the 9/11 attacks and the Great Recession. I observed my daughter, Sophia, navigating the challenges of being part of a generation often labeled as “test dummies.” She grappled with the harsh realities of online bullying, crying in her room as she faced the mean-spiritedness of certain social media platforms. Growing up amidst such rapid change was difficult for them, leading to a skepticism that, often, prioritized online information over the lessons their parents tried to impart. One positive aspect I noticed is that my daughter values experiences over material possessions, which is a refreshing shift. There was a huge shift as well as a worship movement during Sophia’s growth years, so I constantly had worship music on as Christian music shifted into pop and mainstream. I hope more millennials come back to God instead of the self-reliant mindset that is present in that generation.
Gen Z is a generation unlike any before it or after it. They were the first generation to grow up with smartphones and social media from a young age. They have been shaped by wars, covid, local and world chaos, economic instability, first-time weather events, and many different and sometimes confusing social movements.
They are true digital natives; they are highly adept at using technology and social media. Mental health and wellness are important to them, and they realize that putting the phone down is important. However, the work ethic in much of this generation has been lost (thankfully, not for my girls). I’ve watched Gen Zs creating a fantasy world on their iPhones, and they lack the understanding of hard work in real life. This has led to concerns about a perceived laziness among youth today.
On a brighter note, Generation Z craves authenticity and can spot insincere fakeness more than any previous generation. My girls value real connections and hold family in high regard. Gen Zs are also actively reshaping the religious landscape through a surprising wave of spiritual curiosity and church engagement. While previous data highlighted a generational decline in faith and church attendance, recent trends reveal that younger adults are now leading a resurgence in church attendance.
What are the important things you’ve learned about yourself while being a mom?
BRENDA:
I have learned that I’m stronger and more resilient than I realized. Watching my three girls thrive is a reflection of all the hard work and prayers in real time.
If I could look back and talk to my younger self, I would tell myself to be more patient in their teenage years and to not sweat the small stuff. I would also have not taken things so personally. But I don’t have any regrets – only a heart filled with laughter and joy, and so many beautiful snapshot moments of memories of my three girls who are a shining light in this world. I feel so truly blessed.
As humans, we are prone to getting stuck in the cycles of emotions – the spin cycle. Expand on that.
BRENDA:
I would call my sister and tell her that I’m feeling crazed by the emotional spin cycle of my three daughters. Trust me, having three young girls in one house means there’s a lot of hormonal energy! Trying to maintain peace and reduce strife was my main goal at all times. My husband has been a great support; he reminds me that it’s not about me and encourages me not to take their outbursts personally, which can be challenging when they direct their fragile emotions at me. I’ve definitely grown in emotional maturity since becoming a mom. I’m working on being less reactive—I don’t always get it right, but I try to pause and think before I respond.
How do you continue to ensure that joy and humor permeate your home and your family’s sensibilities?
BRENDA:
Laughter is the ultimate family social glue. It bridges gaps, dissolves daily tension and creates a warm family dynamic. It also builds emotional resilience, helps defuse conflicts, and triggers the release of endorphins that literally deepen trust and intimacy when you laugh together. It creates memories and a sense of emotional and physical safety in the family unit. In a world that can feel unsafe, laughter, joy, dancing together, and singing are staple stress releases in our home. At times we have people sing karaoke before meals. I insist that people sing before they eat at certain occasions at my house and you’d be surprised at the talent that shines.
You did an epic African Safari recently. How did that trip impact you?
BRENDA:
Upon landing in Johannesburg, South Africa, I was overcome with emotion, feeling a deep sense of pain for all the wars, slaughter, loss, and pain of both humans and animals on the African continent. The sky mesmerized me; the clouds danced in a way I had never witnessed before. One stormy night I went out on my deck and just began to pray over the African terrain. The next morning, my youngest daughter said she saw angels in the clouds warring. I felt closer to God in Africa than anywhere else.
Seeing the animals in their natural habitat brought me to tears. I fell in love with elephants, especially one old elephant at a watering hole. As our Jeep drove away, I turned to look back at him, and our eyes locked. At that moment, it felt like he was looking into my soul, and I couldn’t help but cry. It was the most beautiful experience I’ve ever had.
I was also struck by the perfect harmony of nature there; the soil was so rich that the animals could even eat it. Another astonishing moment came when we encountered a group of rhinos. As the Jeep stopped, they looked up, and I felt an overwhelming sense of peace and kindness radiating from them. I had no idea they could be so gentle; the media often depicts them as aggressive. I believe any aggression they show is simply a protective response, shaped by the trauma of witnessing their kind being slaughtered, which is truly heartbreaking. Everyone should experience Africa and go on a Safari and see how they all coexist and only take what they need. We could learn from these majestic creatures.
Favorite indulgence?
BRENDA:
I love sweets, chocolate chip cookies and chocolate cake are my favorite edibles – eaten outside overlooking our gorgeous view. Or, in Hawaii on a tropical beach vacation with the whole family enjoying dinners together. I love lazy days on the beach, making so many memories with sun-kissed skin and cool evening breezy nights.
Professionally, what can we look forward to from you?
BRENDA:
I’m still very much involved in film, television and music, and I’m excited to introduce my next new project to readers. I’m in the film The Secret Princess where I play the part of Countess Colette.
